Kindness Wall

Kindness Wall

My kids tend to get along pretty well, and even when there’s an argument, they can get past it pretty quickly.  However, at the end of the summer and for the first week of the school year, our kids seemed to be more cranky and less patient with each other than normal. I’m not sure if it was because their bodies hadn’t adjusted to the new schedule or if they were just tired of going all day.  All I knew was that I wanted to change how they were acting toward one another.  I wanted them to focus on showing kindness to one another.  When I was a School Counselor, I helped start a Kindness Wall of Fame at my school.  Every time any adult saw a child do something kind, the adult could choose to give that child a star for being a kind member of our school.  I decided to implement our own Kindness Wall at home.

Book Review - It's so much work to be your friend

Book Review - It's so much work to be your friend

One of my colleagues and dear friends recommended that I should read this book.  I’m so glad she did. I absolutely love it!  The central focus of this book is that “children with learning problems tend to struggle with social relationships”. The author gives practical advice and everyday ways you can help your child improve their social functioning.  He recognizes that due to children’s learning disabilities, they may not be able to pick up on the social cues like other kids, so they need more direct instruction and guidance to learn how to interact with others and be a good friend.  

Teaching Personal Space using videos

Teaching Personal Space using videos

I've written before about how you can use videos to teach social skills to kids (check out this blog post for more information about using videos in general). One of my favorite lessons to teach using videos is about personal space. I loved showing the two videos below because of the laughter and conversations that happened when we watched something a little silly together. Here’s what you can do if you want to use videos to start a discussion with your kids about personal space:

Why I like play dates

Why I like play dates

                        Just because it's scheduled time doesn’t mean it lacks imagination.

Kids need to play in order to practice creativity and flexibility, solve problems and learn ways to regulate emotions, and I’ve already addressed the importance of play in this blog post.  A new phenomenon in play has evolved since I was a child, the scheduled play date.  The play date has been getting some negative press recently, with people listing all the things they don’t like about them.  There are pros and cons to everything, so I decided to explain why I appreciate play dates. I’ve found them to be helpful for a number of the children I‘ve worked with over the years, and I schedule play dates for my own children from time to time.

TED Talk from Tim Brown

TED Talk from Tim Brown

I was intrigued by this TED Talk by Tim Brown because of the title - Tales of creativity and play.  Tim Brown is the CEO of a consultancy company, and you might be thinking - what the heck does a CEO of a company know about play??!?  Quite a lot, it turns out.  This is an interesting TED talk to watch because he has the audience actually do a few creative activities, including drawing and shooting little foam rockets around the room.  What I love about this TED talk is that he connects play with how that helps the creative process in the work place and suggests that adults should use play more.  Here’s what resonated with me from this TED talk:

5 Tips for Conversations

5 Tips for Conversations

Being able to have a conversation is an essential social skill to have.  Your child will need to be able to start conversations if they want to get to know people, make friends, or play with others.  It can be hard to think of things to talk about when you don’t know someone.  Here are some ideas to help kids start a conversation.

3 Steps to Start a Family Book Club

3 Steps to Start a Family Book Club

Sometimes parents will say they have a hard time getting their kids to open up or talk with them about things.  I think a great way to connect with your own children is to create a family book club. Reading a book together shows that you think reading is important and an enjoyable past time and, while you’re discussing the book, your child can practice conversation skills and potentially talk about things that are happening in their own lives.  Here are 3 strategies you can use to help start your own book club:

5 Fantastic Games for Families: PreK through Grade 2

5 Fantastic Games for Families: PreK through Grade 2

Spending time together as a family is such an important thing to do, especially in this day and age when family time can be so limited and fractured.  It’s a great way for families to connect, to get to know one another and for adults to model good social skills for the kids.  Kids who have a hard time connecting socially benefit from learning how to play games, how to set them up and how to manage winning and losing in a gracious way. Our family loves to play games whenever we get a chance (which is almost daily), and we’re really enjoying them, so I thought it would be a good idea to blog about 5 more family games.  I wrote this blog post a few months ago about family games for older kids, these games are aimed at preschool and early elementary school aged children.  

 

Book Review - Queen Bees and Wannabes

Book Review - Queen Bees and Wannabes

I read this book several years ago; I loved it then and I continue to recommend it to parents as a great guide to understanding the world of girls.   I also saw Rosalind Wiseman speak in person several years ago, and I found her to have a down to earth, practical and reasonable approach to working with kids in these tough relational situations.  She doesn’t claim to have all the answers or say that these things won’t happen.  But she does have some ideas of how to work through things and is great at explaining things in a way that  parents understand.  

Review of the Parent Backpack for Kindergarden through Grade 5

Review of the Parent Backpack for Kindergarden through Grade 5

The mother of one of my daughter’s classmates recommended that I read The Parent Backpack.  I’m so glad she did!  This is an excellent resource for parents!  There are a lot of things that are great about this book, here are a few of my highlights:

Temple Grandin - TED Talk

Temple Grandin - TED Talk

I finally got a chance to watch Temple Grandin’s TED talk from 2010.  I first heard about Temple Grandin a few years ago when I watched the HBO movie about her life.  I found it interesting and insightful and I’ve wanted to learn more about her.  I haven’t had a chance to read any of her books yet although they are on my reading list.  She has a lot of interesting things to say about children on the spectrum as they get older and enter the workforce.  Here are some of my takeaways:

Book Review: Best Friends, Worst Enemies

Book Review: Best Friends, Worst Enemies

Book Review: Best Friends, Worst Enemies Understanding the Social Lives of Children by Michael Thompson, PhD and Catherine O’Neill Grace with Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD

 

This book is a thorough examination of children’s social lives, from infancy through dating.  The authors explore more specifics of how children develop friendships, manage and work through conflict, group dynamics, teasing and bullying. The only thing I think is missing in this book is that the authors do not delve too deeply into LGBT issues, and I think that adds a whole other dynamic to social lives, friendship and dating. Here are my highlights from the book:

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