WAYS TO CONNECT
Connecting with people is essential for well-being but it can be tough to do. Here are some ideas of games you can play, activities you can do as a family, ways to find other families to connect with and places where you can get support and find parents who are experiencing something similar to you!
GAMES FOR FAMILIES TO PLAY
FOR YOUNGER CHILDREN
This is a game from Peaceable Kingdom, known for it's cooperative style game play. All the players work together to get the owls home before the sun rises. Great fun for practicing social skills like cooperating, working together and communicating. Plus it's just adorable!!
This game is one of my new favorite social skills games! Why? Because not only do I enjoy playing, children really enjoy playing. The main character in the game is Q, a super smart monkey but doesn’t always have the greatest social awareness and doesn’t always think about others. Q’s Race to the Top is super simple to learn. The game has three types of cards: Blue YOU Cards, Green Q Cards, Orange DO Cards. The counselor in me loves the Blue and Green cards, and the mom in me loves the Orange cards. they get kids moving and doing physical things that are fun and a little challenging. It’s perfect for a child who may have a hard time sitting still for a whole game. And the beauty is it makes children stay invested and involved with the game. Having the physical component is the perfect way to balance out the talking parts of the game.
I just recently discovered HABA games thanks to Table by Teresa. What I love about the games from HABA is that they involve cooperative game play, rather than competitive play amongst players. For children who struggle with managing those competitive type of games, these games are a good place to start. Animal Upon Animal is a stacking game where you work together to build as tall of a structure of animals as you can. We've played according to the directions but we also just free build which the kids love too. I totally recommend this game!
This is a Bingo style game. There is a container where the tiles are kept, the dealer pulls it forward and back and reveals two tiles. Whoever calls out the tile first gets it for their board. My kids like to take turns being the dealer, and my 3 year old can manage to get the tiles back in with no adult help. It’s such a great game to increase vocabulary, practice matching, pick up on patterns, and just work on social interactions. There have been many arguments over who said the word first. How do you solve that problem? It’s a good skill to practice with your family before you have your kids play with their friends.
One of my dearest friends let me borrow this game after my son played it at her house. My kids love to try to catch the fireflies and they have learned to negotiate taking turns putting in the fireflies. It also keeps them entertained for a long time. It’s adorable!
My son loves this game! He enjoys being able to actually use a hammer and hit something. You also have to learn some self control while hitting, because if you knock all the pieces out and the skater falls, you lose! On a couple of occasions, we have played this with cousins, and there are some great lessons there about being patient and waiting your turn.
I loved playing Clue with my sister when we were kids! Several years ago, I found Clue Jr and used it when I was working with kids who needed help improving their social skills. The game was pretty easy to set up and was fun to play. They had to pay attention to clues, eliminate suspects and make guesses, just like in regular clue. This was a great game to use with kids to practice social interactions.
Fun game where you use marbles, tweezers, a little water and tissues. It’s always fun to see and hear reactions when the “ice” breaks.
Each player gets a card. You have to spot the item that both cards have in common and whoever gets it first wins. There are several versions, including numbers, letters, animals and sports themes.
For OLDER CHILDREN
It’s an easy pattern recognition game, but there are all sorts of patterns to choose from, so you also have to be a flexible thinker.
This game is very popular, but it can be tricky because different people play by different rules. It’s important to teach your child to make sure to talk with people before the game begins so everyone is on the same page when someone picks up a draw 4 or changes the color. It’s good practice to try different uno rules at home and see which ones your kids prefer.
You pick a card, put it in your headband, and then ask the people playing with you yes or no questions to try and figure out what you are. You have to think of the kinds of questions you need to ask to get you closer to your answer. It can be hilarious!
This game requires some creativity and imagination to make up stories with images you’ve rolled on the dice. There are several different versions of the game out there, and it’s always interesting to see what adventures people tell.
This game is addicting. I used it a lot at lunch groups as a school counselor. Kids have also told me they like the sound of the beads when they get dropped into the different sections.
Another game that was very popular with the lunch group crowd. Sometimes kids would play tournaments, or have conversations about whether they played offensively (focused on winning) versus defensively (focused on preventing the other person from winning).
Everyone has probably heard the sound of the trouble pop-o-matic. I love this game because there are times you have to go back to start, and it’s a perfect opportunity to show flexibility and good sportsmanship skills.
I love this game because it makes people to think about someone else’s perspective. What card will be chosen as the winner will change depending on who is judging.
This game is similar to Apples to Apples, but uses pictures and captions instead. Everyone can take a turn being the judge, and the judge picks the caption that they think fits the picture best. You have to think about things from the perspective of the judge, so it's another great game to help children work on taking another person's perspective.
Note: Both Apples to Apples Junior and Bubble Talk are for 8+, but younger children can play them if they are on a team with someone who can read for them.
RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS
Here are several ideas for Random Acts of Kindness families can do together. What a great way to encourage kindness and empathy in your children and connect as a family.
Donate books to the library- We took some of our old books to the library a few months ago, and now we have even more to donate.
Donate items to Goodwill from Kid World Citizen
Leave fun items for kids at the park - We live right down the street from a park. We have some extra sidewalk chalk laying around, I think we’re going to leave some at the park for someone else to enjoy too!
Popcorn Surprise with a free printable from Coffee Cups and Crayons
Valentine’s Day Cards for Kids in the Hospital from the Idealist Mom
Do something nice for a neighbor - Our neighbors had a baby a couple of years ago, and we wanted to do something kind for them, so we made them snacks and I made them a baby blanket.
Giving away homemade hearts from Meri Cherry
Burying Treasure at the Playground - I love this idea from Pennies of Time. We have some small toys in the basement, we’re totally doing this!
Gifts for Dance Class - We had such fun doing this!
Thank you note to the UPS driver - He’s so friendly and I order A LOT of things. Sometimes really heavy things. I think it would be kind if we wrote him a nice thank you card.
Other Places to Get Ideas for Kind Acts
- Here are 100 Acts of Kindness from Coffee Cups and Crayons
- If you need some ideas for random acts of kindness - check out Pennies of Time - the entire site is dedicated to teaching kids to serve and doing kind acts. There are lots of great ideas here.
- Boom Boom Cards - You can do random acts of kindness and track it online! There are different packs you can use as well.
- Random Acts of Kindness.org is also a great place to start to get some ideas for acts of kindness to do with your family
Shop and Give
Here are some places where you can shop and give at the same time:
mytwill.com - For every item you buy, you can donate a blanket to a charity of your choosing. The blankets are made in the USA,100% organic and super soft.
Toms.com - When you buy a high road backpack, you help support bullying prevention programming in schools.
Special Playdate is a service that connects parents with other parents looking for playdate opportunities for their children. It’s for children with or without special needs so anyone can join and start connecting. They offer in person services to support playdates in the NY area, and they are looking to expand that service to other areas.
Lekotek provides play based family time for families who have children with disabilities. Families can come in once a month and play together with the variety of games in the center. Lekotek provides Family Play Specialists to help support and assist families in learning to play together. There are groups all over the United States, in Georgia, Illinois, Louisiana, Michigan, New Jersey, New York, North Dakota and Pennsylvania.
This is a playdate app that connects local parents based on mutual friends, interests and children of similar age.
Alison has been working with children and families in therapy in Georgia for years and recently moved to Massachusetts. She has a particular talent for working with children in groups. She is doing amazing work in Needham, helping kids connect and learn how to interact with one another. She offers lots of groups for children and young adults ages 4-22 and support for their siblings and families. She’s even started Music Therapy classes! If you’re in the Eastern Massachusetts area, check out her website, childtherapyinboston.com and contact her.
Peter Pan Center
The other one from How to make and keep friends
The new one in Milton
Timbernook is a nature based outdoor camp program that runs year round. TimberNook was founded in New Hampshire by Angela Hanscom, a Pediatric OT by training and a mom. Here’s a listing of where they will have camps by the end of 2015:
- San Francisco, CA*
- Southern Pines, CA
- Lakes Region, NH
- Barrington, NH*
- Madbury, NH*
- Brentwood, NH*
- San Luis Obispo, CA
- Atlanta, Georgia
- Charlotte, North Carolina*
- Miami, Florida*
- Cleveland, Ohio*
- New Zealand*
- Cape Cod, MA
- Long Island, NY
Camp in Petaluma
SUPPORT FOR YOU!
The World's Okayest Parent
Support for Sensory Needs
The Neighborhood, Imperfect Families
Coping Skills for Kids Group
Highly Sensitive Kids Group
Interviews with special needs parents about the struggles and joys of raising children with special needs. Love it!!
What a great podcast with down to earth advice. Sometimes she interviews guests and other times, she does a shorter podcast talking directly to listeners with some good snippets of information. She also just published a book - Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics!
This is a resource I found very early on while doing research for Encourage Play. Annie is always interviewing experts on a wide range of topics that relate to parenting, school, bullying, and mental health and disability issues.
They have great interviews with lots of interesting experts covering a wide variety of topics. They've interviewed Temple Grandin, Russell A. Barkley, PhD, John Elder Robinson and Michelle Garcia Winner.
I recently listened to the episode where one of my favorite bloggers, Dayna from Lemon Lime Adventures, was talking about kids melting down in Target parking lots. I have been there, and I totally relate to that!
Parenting In the Rain